April 28, 2012

10 Days of Accidental Unschooling - Day 8: Carschooling and Fieldtripping

New series coming soon... Looking forward to blogging it! #hsbloggers #homeschool

NOTE: This is Part 8 of a 10 day series on Accidental Unschooling that is taking me LONGER than 10 days to write (sorry). If you are OCD and want to start from the introduction or Part 1, hop to the bottom of this post and use the conveniently provided links!

Travel and change of place impart new vigor to the mind.  ~Seneca

A NEW VIEW
I talked to an old friend recently who had gone on vacation for the weekend with her spouse. They left the kids behind and traveled a few hours on a short road trip to a nearby town to stay in a bed and breakfast. During that time they went on a "field trip" so they could zipline together. They also spent time doing 'nothing' at the hotel - just laying around and watching TV. She admitted that it was silly to pay money and travel "just to watch TV", but somehow it felt different and more relaxing - just being in a new setting.

Can you relate? It may be the same read-aloud book - but the fresh air and picnic blanket add an extra sensory layer towards making it forever engrained in your memory as an enjoyable "experience".

I'm a big carschool advocate. We have a plastic box with handles (like the kind you get at Walmart and keep under your bathroom cabinet) and we pile our reading material in it and take it with us in the car all the time. Some of this habit grew out of necessity (when you have appointments at the doctor, extra curricular activities, and errands to run, you need to get creative and maximize your time). However, I would venture to say that most of why we love carschooling so much is because we really enjoy being on the go.

I have found out that there ain't no surer way to find out whether you like people or hate them than to travel with them.  ~Mark Twain

Whether you are just driving in town and getting extra reading done while you are out and about, listening to books on CD between doctor appointments, or actually taking a field trip or vacation with the kids, there are a few great tips you might browse over that will help you turn your venture in to an educational experience:


  • Keeping Kids Busy Busy Busy on Road Trips (great tips)
  • Take along a snack bag in case the kids get cranky
  • Keep a box of books in the car if you are driving 
  • Print out maps for the kids to use to follow along
  • Utilize your VHS for educational flicks rather than playing just animated movies
  • Create a check list of things you want to have them do while you are out and about
  • Play some road games that encourage paying attention to their surroundings
  • Singing along with educational CDs is a great way to memorize things (Math songs anyone?)

FIELD TRIPPIN'
I have always been a nomad at heart. Field trips feed my love for getting out, being on the go, being in the sunshine and having a different view (and not thinking about all the chores that need to get done before dinner). Not to mention, field trips add an element of physical education in (a subject most homeschools are deficient in). The "academic" part of the field trip is often just the icing on the cake. We field trip because field trippin' is fun!

Back in the ancient history of blogging (2005), I started a blog series called "Field Trip Foto Friday". I used to post about field trips almost weekly. After I had the last two little babies, our field trips dwindled off and I haven't posted much on my homeschooling because I felt so inadequate as a homeschooler who had fallen in to "Accidental Unschooling". It took a lot of seeing my kids blossom in spite of my perceived failures for me to realize that I wasn't a flop of a homeschool mom after all; which is kind of the reason I'm here today talking about field trips with you. I plan to continue updating my homeschool series now that the shame is fading. It takes a while to unlearn homeschool mom guilt. I'm also getting out and doing more now that the little guys are able to keep up.

Tweet #iphonedaily #birds #twitter #life #friends #tweet #love #cute #iphone4s
Cute wallet at Mardels ~ don't forget your wallet when you head out!

WHERE IN THE WORLD...
Have some great field trip ideas? Consider sharing your posts about field trips every last Friday of the month over at the Homeschool Post (which happens to be THIS past Friday - which is now Saturday, and since yours-truly was the one who was supposed to get it up, it's late!). I love seeing other homeschool families and their adventures in this great big world.

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Next up we're going to talk about what NOT to skimp on.
The most important trip you may take in life is meeting people halfway.  ~Henry Boye
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Below are links to the rest of the series so it's easier to navigate for those that surf in after the fact. There is also a handy button on my sidebar to bring you back to this series later, should you want to read at leisure.

SERIES LINKS:
Introduction to this series
Day 1: Not So Super
Day 2: Morphing Methods
Day 3: Out of the Box
Day 4: Learning From Life
Day 5: Grace is for Homeschoolers
Day 6: Taste and See
Day 7: Grease and Sugar
Day 8: Carschooling and Fieldtripping
Day 9: Reading to Succeed
Day 10

Be sure to join me each day. I'll be giving away a prize to a random winner in my comments section on these posts. Each comment counts as one entry. I love comments! Even if I don't have time to answer every comment or email, I cherish them and enjoy getting to know my fellow homeschooling moms.



This post is a part of the 10 Days of... Series at iHomeschoolNetwork. Check out the other amazing homeschool bloggers who are participating in the writing challenge by visiting the landing page there.

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April 23, 2012

10 Days of Accidental Unschooling - Day 7: Grease and Sugar

New series coming soon... Looking forward to blogging it! #hsbloggers #homeschool

NOTE: This is Part 7 of a 10 day series on Accidental Unschooling that is taking me LONGER than 10 days to write (sorry). If you are OCD and want to start from the introduction or Part 1, hop to the bottom of this post and use the conveniently provided links!

The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.  ~Mark Twain

THE RESET BUTTON
When you buy a new computer, the manufacturer knows that eventually you will have trouble with it. It is kind of a given, really - that things will break down and be corrupted. There's a factory restore CD included in your purchase for times when the software and hardware fail. Most of life, including homeschooling, should come with the same factory disc. The best thing we have is our Bible, prayer, and the joy of FUN.

I'm pretty sure that when God rested on that 7th Day and told us to follow suit, he knew that we were going to need re-charging. We need the end-of-week rest, but sometimes just a day can bring enough hardship and toil to warrant a little R&R, too. When there are frowns and tears, it is best to close the books and seek paths to bring those smiles back. I read a really good post about this very topic at my friend Lisa Pennington's blog a while back - 20 Ways to "Reset" When the Kids are Having a Hard Day - and I shared with her a little secret about my own methods of resetting our days. Here's what I told her:

Today our 'reset' button was ice cream and fries at McDonald's. I know you are probably shaking your head... and the kids (especially the one that started the meltdown) didn't "deserve" sweets for acting out... but sometimes a kid needs to feel special and loved... and my kids love fast food grease and sweets. And it meant a lot to them that I "rewarded" them DESPITE their obvious shortcomings today. I actually had both my teens KISS MY HAND in thanks. :) I told them that today was just because mama loves them. And really - that's what it is all about sometimes... just loving each other even though we have faults. I know I'm not always getting A+ marks on my behavior card, either. Glad my Big Daddy in the sky lets me start each day with a clean slate.

You would be amazed at how often a reset button is needed. Even if it takes a week to get your groove back, it is worth it to find the joy and love on your kids. They are not going to learn anything if they are unhappy. Show them that they are important enough to you that you put them above the lesson plans and to-do list. You'll see a huge turn-around in attitude and willingness to work and cooperate if you do.

THE I-LEARNING LIST
What does a re-set button have to do with Accidental Unschooling? Just this: when there's not any parent-led homeschooling happening, your days will be free for them to fill with child-led, delight-based learning. While you are feeding them full of grease and sugar, you can lay down a few ground rules about the free time you'll be experiencing minus those well-thought-out lesson plans. Tell them that you want them to still be learning, so Xbox, TV, and Computers are off limits - but that you are more than willing to allow them time to build on their interests. When they are "bored" or "free", it is easy to just plop down on the couch and zone out in front of a screen. Screen time is usually counter-productive to homeschooling (unless you are researching or using a computer based program for school).

To prevent the kids from wasting time, have them make a list - and I-Learning (Independent Learning) list. Have them fill it with all the ideas they have about projects they are wanting to do and never have time for, books they want to read, field trips they want to go on, etc. Let them crank up their creative gears and really spend some time on it. Have them keep it in an assignment binder that stays within reach daily so that they can continue to add to it. Remember those "Rainy Day" Activity Cans, full of ideas to do when you can't go out and play? This is just a glorified version of that idea!

Never met a kid besides Liz who was grumpy at McDonalds. #kids #frown #grumpy #angry #fastfood #sad #instadaily
My little nephew and niece at McDonald's. They are graduated from high school now!

CARE TO SHARE YOUR RESET BUTTON WITH US?
What do you and your kids do to change the dreary days to happy ones? How you you piece the day together after a mommy or math meltdown? Give us your ideas so we can add them to our arsenal. Us homeschool mamas in the trenches need to share secrets so we can effectively battle against Homeschool Entropy.

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Tomorrow we're going to talk about field trips. They are as essential to our homeschooling as water to a fish.
One joy scatters a hundred griefs.  ~Chinese Proverb
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Below are links to the rest of the series so it's easier to navigate for those that surf in after the fact. There is also a handy button on my sidebar to bring you back to this series later, should you want to read at leisure.

SERIES LINKS:
Introduction to this series
Day 1: Not So Super
Day 2: Morphing Methods
Day 3: Out of the Box
Day 4: Learning From Life
Day 5: Grace is for Homeschoolers
Day 6: Taste and See
Day 7: Grease and Sugar
Day 8: Carschooling and Fieldtripping
Day 9: Reading to Succeed
Day 10

Be sure to join me each day. I'll be giving away a prize to a random winner in my comments section on these posts. Each comment counts as one entry. I love comments! Even if I don't have time to answer every comment or email, I cherish them and enjoy getting to know my fellow homeschooling moms.



This post is a part of the 10 Days of... Series at iHomeschoolNetwork. Check out the other amazing homeschool bloggers who are participating in the writing challenge by visiting the landing page there.

Thanks for joining me!



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April 22, 2012

10 Days of Accidental Unschooling - Day 6: Taste and See

New series coming soon... Looking forward to blogging it! #hsbloggers #homeschool

NOTE: This is Part 6 of a 10 day series on Accidental Unschooling. If you are OCD and want to start from the introduction or Part 1, hop to the bottom of this post and use the conveniently provided links!

Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.
~ Psalm 34:7-9

FINDING REASONS TO CELEBRATE
During difficult times - like adapting to a new baby, moving, teenage angst, pregnancy, health issues, or whatever problem life throws at you, it pays to have some rose colored glasses. Looking for the silver lining might seem hard when your hopes and plans have been tossed to the wind, but God is in the storm with you. He wants you to have peace that passes understanding and joy in the midst of whatever circumstance you are in. You also need to remember that you are educating your kids on how to handle future difficulties in their own lives by watching you weather the hardships.

For me to let go of the perfectionism and be OK with myself when the lists were not checked off and I felt left-behind on my lesson plans, I devised a plan to CELEBRATE ANYWAY. I chose to give thanks for the learning I saw happening around me: the child-led accidental unschooling... or the God-led moments that happened despite any of us trying to go in our own direction unsuccessfully.

GOOD JOB!
Getting a pat on the back is a great feeling, and I knew we needed more of it. I read in a book (can't remember now where) that success breeds success... and I wanted my kids to know that I loved them, appreciated them, and thought they were smart and wonderful. Our lists had been too long for too long, if you know what I mean. Kind of makes a mama and kid feel hopeless. That's the last thing I wanted them feeling. SO... I started adding "assignments" in to my lesson planner for things that we learned and did which weren't planned. I also started making a DID list - instead of just a TO DO list.

SHOW AND TELL



One thing that happens when kids direct themselves is creativity increases. This little clay adventure was one of my daughter's new-found talents after her mouth surgery last year. Totally accidental, totally wonderful.

Inspired by Bumbleboo - Morgan sketched this freehand #illustration #trees #owls

My 13 year old has had time to really hone her drawing skills because of our new relaxed schedule. This is one that I framed and put on my wall in the entry way. She can pretty much just look at anything and sketch it. Her Cartoon phase became an Anime phase, and that morphed in to a Manga phase. Now she's doing more realistic drawings because of her own passion to grow herself in that area. She has purchased books, gone online and researched, and practiced like crazy. Sometimes I thought it would make ME crazy when she chose to practice drawing instead of getting an assignment done that I wanted her to do... but how can you NOT celebrate the beauty of her art?

Piano #febphotoaday #igers #instadaily #piano #music #percolator #ilove #somethingthatmakesUhappy

I should have included HEAR in the title of this post, too. Both of my kids decided to pick out music that was way above their skill level and learn it in two months for a recital. My son picked his song out by ear from a Japanese CD that he purchased with his own money because he loved the score so much. He learned the song so well that he didn't even make a mistake at the recital this month. His sister was working on three different songs and couldn't decide which one to play for the recital. My mom (their piano teacher) was blown away by how pretty their music selections were and is really impressed by their willingness and delight with learning piano. If it had have been for us getting all of MY list checked off, there would have been far less time for practicing - and music is something to celebrate for sure!

My speciality ... #spanish #rice  #texmex

The taste part is one of my favorites of our accidental unschooling. I am a food lover. Please don't try and tell me it shows. I already know it. A couple of nights ago, I asked my daughter if she could make us enchiladas for dinner. I didn't even have to tell her how, where the recipes were, what to make to go along with it - nothing. I simply asked her to cook - something she likes to do anyway - and dinner magically appeared a little over an hour later: home made Spanish Rice, home made cheese enchiladas with her special chili sauce, and black beans. It's easy celebrating TexMex. Perfectionism has a hard time preventing me from relishing the fact that my kids can cook and bake - and I don't care what on the list doesn't get checked off. A family has to eat!
You don't choose your family.  They are God's gift to you, as you are to them.  ~Desmond Tutu

RELATIONSHIP FACTOR
Not only does accidental unschooling promote creativity, but it also creates a relationship between the student and the learning that is much deeper than any teacher-directed activity could foster. Relationship is what moves us. There's joy in the learning when the children are connected to it through their own inborn passions. There's joy in the learning and joy in the HOME. It leaves room for the joy to translate in to sibling relationships, too.

masterbooks boys

Big kid loves science = big kid loves to read science to little brothers = big kid and little brothers engaged in relationship building = mama's heart is happy, too!


WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR ACCIDENTAL UNSCHOOL SUCCESSES?
Have you been showing grace to your homeschooled kids? Have you been smiling more, relaxing more, hurrying less, encouraging them to follow their God-given talents and passions, scolding less, praying more, and celebrating their growth? I'd love to hear about it.

We need to spur one another on to being better moms and educators - and hearing success stories is one way we can do this. Make a list! Share it with me in the comments - share it with your kids - your co-op friends (who would probably benefit from a positive kid-bragging email as much as your kids would benefit from knowing you sent it) - and with other homeschool moms you know who might be struggling with perfectionism or feelings of defeat because of their life circumstances.

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Tomorrow we're going to talk about fast food. Because I like to keep you guessing.


A smile is a curve that sets everything straight.  ~Phyllis Diller
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Below are links to the rest of the series so it's easier to navigate for those that surf in after the fact. There is also a handy button on my sidebar to bring you back to this series later, should you want to read at leisure.

SERIES LINKS:
Introduction to this series
Day 1: Not So Super
Day 2: Morphing Methods
Day 3: Out of the Box
Day 4: Learning From Life
Day 5: Grace is for Homeschoolers
Day 6: Taste and See
Day 7: Grease and Sugar
Day 8: Carschooling and Fieldtripping
Day 9: Reading to Succeed
Day 10

Be sure to join me each day. I'll be giving away a prize to a random winner in my comments section on these posts. Each comment counts as one entry. I love comments! Even if I don't have time to answer every comment or email, I cherish them and enjoy getting to know my fellow homeschooling moms.



This post is a part of the 10 Days of... Series at iHomeschoolNetwork. Check out the other amazing homeschool bloggers who are participating in the writing challenge by visiting the landing page there.

Thanks for joining me!



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Other Good Reads:
Order of Operations Series
If I Can Homeschool, Anyone Can
Rising From the Ashes of Homeschool Burnout (at the Homeschool Post)

April 21, 2012

10 Days of Accidental Unschooling - Day 5: Grace is for Homeschoolers

New series coming soon... Looking forward to blogging it! #hsbloggers #homeschool

NOTE: This is Part 5 of a 10 day series on Accidental Unschooling. If you are OCD and want to start from the introduction or Part 1, hop to the bottom of this post and use the conveniently provided links!

We are all inclined to judge ourselves by our ideals; others, by their acts.  ~Harold Nicolson

THE DREAM AND THE IDEAL
Most of us start off with an image of what homeschooling will look like. Sometimes a mom comes to the decision to homeschool because she feels "led" to the decision by the Lord, and others are led by their husband's conviction and coaxing. Rarely is the decision made lightly; and always, the hope is for the children's betterment. No one wants the experience to be miserable for child or mother. Armed with our best dreams for our children, and the picture of a perfect educational utopian dream, we set out on the great homeschool unknown.

For me, my convictions were religious ones first. My hope was that my child would not grow up to lose their faith by young adulthood as I had in my public school journey. The effects of my teen years left devastating scars on my heart and conscience. I wanted better for my children - after all, why have children if they will grow up to just repeat all your regretted mistakes, and possibly not rebound from them like you did?

My picture of the ideal homeschool day would put God first, and then unfold in a unhurried manner and be filled with laughter and joy. There would be cuddling and reading together on the couch or bed. There would be long walks and time to sketch and research the things we found in nature. Every week would include a new art project. We would naturally progress through our books together - none of them "twaddle" books (mind-candy) - without me having to make lists of what pages we needed to read and when. Time would be available for the children to play and delve in to their own interests. Baking and cooking together would be enjoyed by all. The kids would recite things they memorized over tea and cookies and put on performances or do oral reports for daddy or family. The big ones would read to the little ones. Fighting would be rare. Chores would be done without nagging. Everyone would learn a language together so we could practice speaking beyond the Rosetta Stone headset. Dad would read with us in the evening and help mom teach some (and do the dishes more). Chores and school would consistently run like clockwork every day as a lifestyle of learning and discipline so that free time could be enjoyed by all family members. Young ones would nap and play together contentedly (and always be quiet during read-aloud time)... and naps would be regular and taken at the same time every day without fail.

Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing.  ~Phyllis Diller, Phyllis Diller's Housekeeping Hints, 1966

HOMESCHOOL ENTROPY
 I'm sure you are nodding your head in agreement that a lot of the above image is similar to your own hopes. Even the non-religious homeschool types have many similar goals for their kids. On a regular day, though - what happens? Homeschool Entropy.



Entropy (as defined by Dictionary.com) is...

entropy (ěn'trə-pē): A measure of the amount of energy in a physical system not available to do work. As a physical system becomes more disordered, and its energy becomes more evenly distributed, that energy becomes less able to do work. For example, a car rolling along a road has kinetic energy that could do work (by carrying or colliding with something, for example); as friction slows it down and its energy is distributed to its surroundings as heat, it loses this ability. The amount of entropy is often thought of as the amount of disorder in a system.

Also numbered in the definitions were:

* (in data transmission and information theory) a measure of the loss of information in a transmitted signal or message.

* a doctrine of inevitable social decline and degeneration.

* lack of pattern or organization; disorder

"I spent years complaining about all the interruptions that occured, keeping me from my work. Then one day I realized the interruptions WERE my work." ~ Unknown

EMBRACING INTERRUPTIONS
The regular day has irregular and regular interruptions. Some of them you can foresee, but others will come along and sideswipe you. Life is surprising like that, and there needs to be a plan for days that go off-course so that meltdowns are kept at bay. Mom needs to know that just because the lesson plans must be discarded, learning doesn't have to stop... and God often uses derailment to put us on another, more important course. He takes us down different paths to grow us. Seeing the interruptions as divine assignments may be difficult in the face of an unchecked list (especially for us OCD types), but it is crucial to being able to live with yourself when July rolls around and you are only 3/4 of the way through your Math book.

#stormclouds #dark #rain #sky #clouds

FALLING SHORT OF THE IDEAL
The picture of a normal day in our homeschool might scare those of you who are still operating closer to the "school-at-home" traditional method - especially if you have less than 3 kids:

Most of the time we start with God. After breakfast, the kids write in their prayer journals. We read a few bible verses (reading straight through) and some sort of devotional (currently Raising Maidens of Virtue and Our 24 Family Ways). There's a lot less cuddling than I would like because I'm often overwhelmed with the amount of homemaking a family of 6 requires of me. It's a good week when we get outdoors for PE once or twice. Art is last on our school list (unless the kids are sneaking in a math page drawing or caught doodling on some other assignment). Progress through our science and history reading material happens slower than I would hope (attitude over who has to read and bookmarks stolen by babies) - which adds time to our already dragging history unit. After babies, school, and chores, there's a lot less free time than either big kid is happy with. We stop school half-way through lessons to bake or cook to prevent trips through the drive-thru. There are no tea parties and the only memory work is bible-verse-related. We don't read enough to the babies. Fighting happens often - usually over chores - and mom has to hound the kids to stay on top of them. Only the 13 year old is progressing on Rosetta Stone. Dad is mostly too tired to do much reading or be very involved with school. The house is often dirty and when we devote a lot of time to learning, chores go undone. Mom gets less free time than most folks could survive on. Discipline is something I would admit our entire family needs to work on. The youngsters rarely nap at the same time and are known for skipping naps all-together  (and a lot of times they try to scream over our voices during read-aloud time - or get caught doing mischief that must be cleaned up). We scramble to keep up with mom's lesson plan list because of life's interruptions and it seems like there is always something unforeseen competing with our time.

Sounds like a homeschool reality show gone awry? Not trying to make excuses for any of our shortcomings - or take away from the fact that we have much to change to do better (as we constantly strive to do)... but I do want to tell you that every day - whether we accomplish what we originally set out to accomplish or not, the kids LEARN something.

An educational system isn't worth a great deal if it teaches young people how to make a living but doesn't teach them how to make a life.  ~Author Unknown

LEARNING HAPPENS ANYWAY
One thing they are learning is that providing for a family's needs and relationships with others are more important than any higher academic pursuit. That's a big life lesson. People come first.

Last year I was thinking that there would be no way my kids were going to pass their end-year tests (Texas public school tests are available online to print and give your children for free - without any government involvement). I was biting my nails because my pre-babies homeschooling looks so drastically "relaxed" compared to my post-babies homeschooling.

You know what? They both passed the tests. I had been giving myself ulcers for nothing. No prep, different scope and sequence, no calculator - and they are passing tests that public school kids spend months of wasted classroom time getting ready for. The only test they had trouble with was the history section - which was only due to the fact that we had been studying a completely different time period that year; but to my surprise, they STILL got more than half of the questions correct without even learning the material.

The best angle from which to approach any problem is the try-angle.  ~ Unknown


THINGS TO WORK ON
Being aware of your goals and the reasons why you might experience burn-out or feelings of discouragement can prevent you from giving up. Seeking out support and reason for encouragement along the journey is a must. It doesn't matter what method you are using, you will need the inspiration and direction. After all, if you have a direction in mind, it helps to aim yourself in that direction so you end up meeting the mark. Being flexible about the journey is important, too.

My painfully honest assessment of how far off we are from our ideal is something I have shared for two reasons: 1) I want you to know that you aren't the only one who struggles, and 2) I like to figure out where I can improve and know what I need to be praying for. Remember that list I made of the "Recipes for Disaster"? You can pray against negative habits and attitudes - and also pray about specific areas that you feel would help you along in your daily routines and general homeschool journey. Prayer is powerful.

You say grace before meals.  All right.  But I say grace before the concert and the opera, and grace before the play and pantomime, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing and grace before I dip the pen in the ink.  ~G.K. Chesterton

GRACE IS FOR HOMESCHOOLERS
Life is not ever going to be perfect. People make mistakes. Even in a fallen world where God expects us to seek His face and TRY to be holy (be good), He says in His Word that all of us have fallen short and require salvation. The message to a fallen world is GRACE. Homeschool Grace would look a little like this:

Smiling more - no matter what is happening around her
Relaxing more - even if you feels like getting "school done and the house clean" is like swimming through peanut butter in a wheel chair
Hurrying less - because if you are already late for a play date, there's no sense in a bad attitude to top it off
Encouraging more and scolding less (creative rewards and positive discipline work wonders)
Praying more
Celebrating more (if you don't enjoy your kids now, when will you?)

Rain!!! #incourage #love #texas

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In the next few posts, I want to celebrate a few Accidental Unschool moments and do a little show-and-tell. I think you should be praising your kids for what they are accomplishing and the progress you see - even if it was not on your lesson planner.

Sorry that I didn't have day 5 up yesterday. Life threw me a few interruptions that were more important to embrace than a blog post!
Gratitude is an art of painting an adversity into a lovely picture.  ~Kak Sri
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Below are links to the rest of the series so it's easier to navigate for those that surf in after the fact. There is also a handy button on my sidebar to bring you back to this series later, should you want to read at leisure.

SERIES LINKS:
Introduction to this series
Day 1: Not So Super
Day 2: Morphing Methods
Day 3: Out of the Box
Day 4: Learning From Life
Day 5: Grace is for Homeschoolers
Day 6: Taste and See
Day 7: Grease and Sugar
Day 8: Carschooling and Fieldtripping
Day 9: Reading to Succeed
Day 10

Be sure to join me each day. I'll be giving away a prize to a random winner in my comments section on these posts. Each comment counts as one entry. I love comments! Even if I don't have time to answer every comment or email, I cherish them and enjoy getting to know my fellow homeschooling moms.



This post is a part of the 10 Days of... Series at iHomeschoolNetwork. Check out the other amazing homeschool bloggers who are participating in the writing challenge by visiting the landing page there.

Thanks for joining me!



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Other Good Reads:
Order of Operations Series
If I Can Homeschool, Anyone Can
Rising From the Ashes of Homeschool Burnout (at the Homeschool Post)

April 19, 2012

10 Days of Accidental Unschooling - Day 4: Learning From Life

New series coming soon... Looking forward to blogging it! #hsbloggers #homeschool

NOTE: This is Part 4 of a 10 day series on Accidental Unschooling. If you are OCD and want to start from the introduction or Part 1, hop to the bottom of this post and use the conveniently provided links!

WHEN LIFE TAKES OVER
I don't know where most of you are in your homeschool journey - just starting out, cruising along at 5+ years, or veteran moms bringing up yet another "set" behind the first (like me) - but I bet if you close your eyes and imagine your dream day, you have a picture of HOW that day would unfold. Like the Matrix (movie), I'm going to call that your residual homeschool self-image. Now, I want you to imagine instead, a typical day (like the day you had, say, yesterday)... and now imagine doing week upon week of consecutive days like your worst day - PLUS taking care of a toddler and a nursing baby. Just for good measure, add in an extra dose of teenage attitude, some emotional hormone flare ups, and carpet that looks like you are running a homeschool refugee camp.

A #LoFi momment - brought to you by my #blogmaffia boyz. They'll break my kneecaps if I try to sit down and check email. #gangsta #yo

So there you have it - your ideal, your norm, and your AWFUL. When you can stay somewhere in-between the ideal and the norm, you will be ENJOYING homeschooling. When you stay in the norm too long, have few ideal days, and too many AWFUL days, you're a NORMAL homeschooler - but you are in danger of burning out (and by the way, kids burn out, too). When you hover between norm and AWFUL; and your AWFUL becomes the new norm... you have a complete meltdown. Not a math meltdown, but a mommy meltdown. That's when you are in danger of throwing in the towel - or making your kids really hate school.

That's what happened to us.

RECIPE FOR DISASTER
I can tell you the equation for getting to the breaking point - even though it will look different for just about every family who ever gets there... here is what it was for us:

lists that were too long
high maintenance babies and toddlers (toys in the toilet, marker on the couch)
pregnancy and fatigue
puberty and hormones
illnesses and chronic undiagnosed pain requiring regular trips to the doctor
interruptions - schedules and routines broken
perfectionism
leaning on self rather than God
prayerlessness
unrealistic expectations
being hurried and not planning ahead enough to avoid extra trips out
negative thinking or talking
stress
teen 'tude
homeschool mom guilt
wasted or idle time

That's a great list for you to write down and pray about. A great checklist for you to go down daily to make sure you are not only covering those areas in prayer, but thinking of ways to creatively combat them rearing their ugly heads in your homeschool. Of course, if you have health troubles, are pregnant, or take care of babies, you can't control THOSE circumstances... but you can certainly seek advice and help in preparing your homeschooling to survive and thrive through those trials.

PRAYER AND RENEWED PURPOSE
What happened to us is that I began to read in my despair. I went to every homeschool conference I could make it to (in Texas). I sought out prayer partners. I honestly talked with my husband and mom (who happens to be one of my biggest supporters). I sought out counsel for my daughter. I used my "free time" to narrow my focus down on planning ahead for school. I pulled back from as many extra commitments as I could to make extra room for priorities that were being put second or third. I prayed. A lot.

And then I made a conscious decision:

I decided to trust in something I couldn't see - and it felt a lot like faith. I decided to believe my friends who told me that all of life was learning... that I couldn't prevent my kids from learning if I wanted to... that even when I wasn't teaching them, they were learning on their own - and that God knew exactly what He was doing when He put them in my life, put these trails in my path, and allowed me to come to this very place of uncertainty. I decided to believe HE was in control of their education, not me.

BOY, that was a freeing moment. Even though I didn't ditch the lesson plans, I can honestly tell you that the amount of stress that I tossed could be felt by everyone in the entire family... down to the furry critters that use a litter box in the garage.

Caught her doodling instead of doing her math. #instadaily #illustration #drawing #manga #art

Suddenly, the drawings on the math pages were artwork. The book she was writing and researching for instead of doing her assigned history was a joint English Literature/Geography/History assignment. PE was happening every time my eldest decided to weed the yard and flower beds to blow of steam. The cookies he made - even though he didn't do his chores - were Home Ec. The help they gave me with the babies was Lifeskills and Child Development 101. The self-directed learning and living they were doing was all of the sudden harmonious and beautifully stress-free. I stepped back and felt like God opened my eyes to the "unschooling" going on all around us that I had frowned upon because it wasn't fitting my OCD, perfectionist lesson plan list. I gave myself a "get out of jail free" card for still being stuck in Egypt because life had elsewhere derailed.

BACK TO BASICS
Remember that sentence I left you a hint on yesterday? The one I said was important to today's post?

On more occasions than I care to admit, it left us just skimming by with the basics (and compared to our previous fun style, it left much wanting).

Yeah, that one. I'm here to tell you that if you do the "basics", and give your kids time to independently learn (not veg out on video games or watch comics all day), there's no limit to what your kid can learn to do - with or without YOUR instruction. I know this because I know other homeschool graduates whose parents have told me they went through years of wondering if they would ever get a fire under their butt to finish school. I know this because Jessica Hulcy told me that one year they built a house and barely did any formal instruction other than Math - and she was my homeschool, KONOS hero. I know this because my son knows more about the biological and geological world than most college graduates - and he learned it all by reading on his own. I know this because my daughter can cook as good as Pioneer Woman, can draw like a Disney Animator, and can write like no-body's business. And she gave me more trouble getting "school done" over the past two years than I would ever talk openly about on this blog.

And so I picked up my lesson plans with renewed enthusiasm and the brilliant idea of letting my kids follow their passions. I made my lessons and lists shorter and gave them room to blossom in the areas they wanted to learn. We started this new compromise - they gave me a little directed learning time, and I gave them more child-led, delight-based learning time.

What would you call the thing we are doing? I came up with the term "Accidental Unschooling", but what we are really doing is just LIVING and learning together - doing what works each day. I don't turn my nose up at any style of educating that is blessing a child and honoring God. The longer I have homeschooled, the more I find that I will never have an answer for those that ask, "What's the best way to do... (insert homeschool related question here)." The best way to homeschool is the way God leads you to do it. Don't compare yourself to anyone else.
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Tomorrow I'll share a more clear picture of what paragraph 1 (my best, norm, and worst) are. Those of you who like to hear "a day in the life" type homeschool posts will enjoy the next one. See you then!

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. - Attributed to Carl Bard
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Below are links to the rest of the series so it's easier to navigate for those that surf in after the fact. There is also a handy button on my sidebar to bring you back to this series later, should you want to read at leisure.

SERIES LINKS:
Introduction to this series
Day 1: Not So Super
Day 2: Morphing Methods
Day 3: Out of the Box
Day 4: Learning From Life
Day 5: Grace is for Homeschoolers
Day 6: Taste and See
Day 7: Grease and Sugar
Day 8: Carschooling and Fieldtripping
Day 9: Reading to Succeed
Day 10

Be sure to join me each day. I'll be giving away a prize to a random winner in my comments section on these posts. Each comment counts as one entry. I love comments! Even if I don't have time to answer every comment or email, I cherish them and enjoy getting to know my fellow homeschooling moms.



This post is a part of the 10 Days of... Series at iHomeschoolNetwork. Check out the other amazing homeschool bloggers who are participating in the writing challenge by visiting the landing page there.

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April 18, 2012

10 Days of Accidental Unschooling - Day 3: Out of the Box

New series coming soon... Looking forward to blogging it! #hsbloggers #homeschool

NOTE: This is Part 3 of a 10 day series on Accidental Unschooling. If you are OCD and want to start from the introduction or Part 1, hop to the bottom of this post and use the conveniently provided links!

OUT OF THE BOX (OR OUT OF THE BOXED CURRICULUM)
If you have just tuned in, I'm sharing my transition of homeschool methods over the years from Traditional, to Unit Study, and then to Eclectic-Charlotte Mason with a heavy dose of Unschooling. If you were to ASK me what my methods were, I would most certainly tell you I was an Eclectic Homeschooler. And in all honesty, I would most likely tell you that I was the one being homeschooled - because my kids have been great at pushing me OUT of my box.

The great thing about being a homeschooler, though, (well, one of the great things) is that you can feel free to do things the way YOU see fit.

For example:

You could mix a little Traditional (use a textbook for Science and Math)

...a little Unit Study (do some art projects and a writing assignment on Bees, bake some honey-cookies and take them to the librarian, check out picture books on bee hives for your preschoolers, take a field trip to a local honey farm)

... and a little Charlotte Mason (take a nature walk, sketch some flowers and insects, read 'The Story Book of Science' by Jean-Henri Fabre, and listen to “Flight of the Bumblebee”).

After a while, you will start to feel like you are hitting your own stride. The methods begin to blend as you go with your children's tempo in the symphony of your own homeschool journey. Pretty soon, you'll find that the method isn't as important as the result: that your children are enjoying learning.

HAPPINESS STATS
Did you know that it is really hard for learning to take place when a child is stressed, angry, or sad? Enjoying learning is truly hinged upon the learning environment. I thought I would throw this little tidbit in because it is important no matter what homeschool method you utilize. Check out this article by Jessica Hulcy (one of the authors of KONOS) about Laughter and Movement: Fertilizer for the Brain.

Quote from the article:

The latest brain research has identified cortisol, the hormone released in the brain during stressed or agitated states, as the one brain chemical that prohibits information from sticking in the memory areas of the brain. Cortisol is released during times of stress and anxiety into the brain by the adrenal gland. Cortisol functions as God's protection to keep one from having bad memories following a stressful encounter by blocking memory, but it acts as weed killer to learning. A mother who dashes into a burning house to pull her baby from the flames may have no recollection of going into the house at all. When asked to describe her heroic feat, she may respond, "I don't remember." ~ Jessica Hulcy

All roads aren't equal.

DIVERGING ROADS
During my journey through the Unit Study world, using KONOS as my springboard for all of our studies, I found that I was comfortable branching off on rabbit trails and adding in my own personal flare. Sometimes it was just an activity or field trip that wasn't in the curriculum that I had dreamed up or just an art project to enrich their studies. We were doing more of an eclectic thing without even analyzing it as we went along. I used to keep a list of all the subjects handy and try to make sure that we covered something in all of them - which would lead to a lot of fun enrichment to our learning that looked much like the above example. We were blazing our own trail.

As with all of life, change is inevitable, though. Children grow up and their tastes and needs change. The drama and dress up days, the hands on projects, and the messy timeline wall charts begin to seem like child's play eventually. I found myself not only in the middle of very difficult life situations (a move, a miscarriage, a loss of homeschool co-op partners, a new pregnancy, bedrest, a new baby, another pregnancy, a hormonal tween, a kid with chronic pain and health problems, ... always something), but my kids were getting older. It sent me in to homeschool-method limbo. On more occasions than I care to admit, it left us just skimming by with the basics (and compared to our previous fun style, it left much wanting). <-- note: that's a key sentence opener for tomorrow's post!

The more I read about Charlotte Mason, the more I thought I would be able to implement it. One of my favorite books is by Cindy Rushton - A Charlotte Mason Primer. In the book she describes how her family practically applied a 'CM' method of learning - the how-to that I needed (if you haven't noticed, I'm a list type of girl). I needed the short lessons, the easy pace, the nature and art; a refuge for a mom overwhelmed. It turned out to be more than I was able to handle - the transition - the year we tried strictly Charlotte Mason. Well, I say a year, but it didn't last long! I learned that there was a good deal of planning - as much as a unit study would have warranted - to stay on top of the CM Method. [It's funny, now that I look at that statement, because where I ended up going - to Chronological History study - is probably the largest planning expedition I have ever taken on.]

While we still implement some CM (I'm a sucker for art study and pretty a nature journal - and wish we made more time for them... and I adore twaddle-free literature), we are certainly not what any purist would call Charlotte Mason. Not by a stretch!

Tomorrow, I will talk about what we ended up doing after mom came to the end of herself and almost gave up. Before then, you might want to read about what caused us to feel so burned out for so long. And just so you know, there are some burned out spots still... but we're praying through them!

If you don't know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else.   ~Lawrence J. Peter
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Below are links to the rest of the series so it's easier to navigate for those that surf in after the fact. There is also a handy button on my sidebar to bring you back to this series later, should you want to read at leisure.

SERIES LINKS:
Introduction to this series
Day 1: Not So Super
Day 2: Morphing Methods
Day 3: Out of the Box
Day 4: Learning From Life
Day 5: Grace is for Homeschoolers
Day 6: Taste and See
Day 7: Grease and Sugar
Day 8: Carschooling and Fieldtripping
Day 9: Reading to Succeed
Day 10

Be sure to join me each day. I'll be giving away a prize to a random winner in my comments section on these posts. Each comment counts as one entry. I love comments! Even if I don't have time to answer every comment or email, I cherish them and enjoy getting to know my fellow homeschooling moms.



This post is a part of the 10 Days of... Series at iHomeschoolNetwork. Check out the other amazing homeschool bloggers who are participating in the writing challenge by visiting the landing page there.

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April 17, 2012

10 Days of Accidental Unschooling - Day 2: Morphing Methods

New series coming soon... Looking forward to blogging it! #hsbloggers #homeschool

NOTE: Warning, this post is long - you might need a cup of Joe to go along with it. This is Part 2 of a 10 day series on Accidental Unschooling. If you are OCD and want to start from the introduction or Part 1, hop to the bottom of this post and use the conveniently provided links!

SO MANY CHOICES...
In homeschooling, there are quite a few questions a mom must ask before she sets out on a course of study...

Why am I homeschooling? (You'll need to write that down and keep it handy - trust me)
What are my long term goals for my children?
How many children will I teach at home?
What are their learning styles?
What is my teaching style?
What method will I use to teach? (which is what this series is covering)
What curriculum will I use?
What part of the year will we study? All year / 6 weeks on, 1 week off / traditional 180 days with a summer break?
What will our routine look like?
Will my children be required to work independently?
How will the meals and home get managed?
How will we set up our learning areas and maintain order?

I found after homeschooling nearly a decade, that I could answer a portion of these questions differently depending on the circumstances of our lives each year, each school year, or each semester. Even our morale at the time when you asked them might change our answers. The only constant thing that never changed in all those questions for me was my reason for homeschooling. It was what I kept coming back to in periods of burn-out or difficulty.

I researched the different homeschooling methods briefly when I started schooling my kids, but they were only two and four when we started, so I thought I would have plenty of time later to figure out learning styles and such. [Amazing how fast time flies, as my kids are now 15 and 13, in 9th and 8th grades, and I have a couple of tots who are nearing the next go-around at 3 and 1.] Naturally, coming from a public school, I started out with worksheets and textbooks. We did things pretty much like a tiny classroom, aside from the huge amount of picture-book reading we did every week... and the field trips. I've always been a field trip lover.

While I was mostly a traditionalist in the early years, I seemed to start early with eclectic tendencies, and daydreamed about being a more Charlotte Mason style homeschooler at heart. When your methods do not match your desires, an internal tug-of-war will ensue, causing you to eventually change those methods. Either that, or you'll be miserable when things get difficult (and with parenting and homeschooling, difficulty is a given eventuality). Traditionalism for me was easy to give up (since I am not a fan of textbooks and I have an artistic side that loves nature), but it was awhile before I would consider myself eclectic.

METHODS OF LEARNING
If you haven't studied the methods of homeschooling for yourself, here they are in a nutshell:

Traditional
Led by the parent, typically with the mom teaching. In a more formal home it may resemble the traditional classroom. The parents pick the curriculum - quite often a boxed set or online package which was created for the classroom (i.e.; ABeka).

Unit Studies
All subjects are taught in correlation with a certain topic so that studies are deeper and more hands on. Some unit studies are broken up further by character trait (KONOS) or done chronologically (Tapestry of Grace). The parent usually does a lot of planning and directs the course of study, but sometimes children are a part of the lesson planning based on their interests.

Charlotte Mason
Charlotte Mason (1842-1923) was a British educator who, by observation over her lifetime, developed a unique approach to education that embraces nature, treats children as small adults with unlimited learning potential, focuses on "living books" (as original to the source as possible), and puts heavy emphasis on life lessons and discipline. She's written a few thick volumes on her methods and many people have also written companion books summarizing them or showing practical application of her style of educating. She's famous for her educational quotes.

Education is a life; that life is sustained on ideas; ideas are of spiritual origin, and that we get them chiefly as we convey them to one another. The duty of parents is to sustain a child's inner life with ideas as they sustain his body with food. - Charlotte Mason

Classical
This mode of teaching is based upon ancient methods of learning that is taught in three stages called "the trivium" (meaning three-fold way) - the Grammar stage (storing of vast amounts of information and memorizing), the Dialect stage (reasoning increases and he learns to argue a point and have an opinion - near junior high), and the Rhetoric stage (self-discovery and expression, logic and maturity). There's a large chunk of information online regarding Classical Christian Education and corresponding book lists to boot. Classical Conversations is a community of classical Christian homeschoolers that often meet in co-op groups to encourage one another in academic learning and provide accountability.

Eclectic
Homeschoolers who can't be pinned down to any one particular method - who do a "little of this" and a "little of that" - are eclectic in their methods. Often an eclectic homeschooler is one who tries different methods to find whatever works and uses different methods with different kids. Some homeschoolers find themselves in this group because they are short on funds and must pick certain curricula or methods because they are affordable. Others just enjoy being more part of the process of individualizing the path to learning and forming their own unique philosophy. Most relaxed homeschoolers would consider themselves eclectic as well.

Montessori
Method of learning from birth to adolescence in which the child learns by following his own interests (heavily centered around play in the early years), teaching his peers, being provided with many sensory toys, and opportunities for discovery. There is a large focus for the teacher to be there as a guide, rather than an instructor; keeping records on how the child is learning, if they are happy (great emphasis is made on emotion as related to the "love for learning"), and if they are being kind to other kids. Older children are expected to manage their own education and follow their interests with research, making "contracts" with their teacher as to their goals.

Unschooling
Unschooling is a loose term that is generally understood as being a child-led or self-directed learning approach which purposes to turn the spark of curiosity into a fire that grows into a lifetime of learning. Unschooling shuns artificial time constraints to allow a child the time to delve deep as his interest drives him. Unschoolers see learning as a natural part of living and a process that is lifelong. As with eclectic homeschooling, the face of unschooling can look very different from family to family.

Waldorf
The Waldorf teaching method was developed by Austrian, Rudolf Steiner, after the first World War, in 1919 as a way to teach children a sense of ethics and less damaging ways of resolving conflict. The motto of the Waldorf way of teaching is educating the "heart, the hands, and the head" (the whole child). Play, art, and imagination are paramount. The inspiration behind education is believed to be of spiritual nature ("every human has a spiritual core") and Waldorf methods introduce myth, holiday, and culture to help a child with self-discovery and promote tolerance and a respect for individual freedom.

Distance/Charter
Some parents (especially those that must work from home and don't have enough time to oversee their children's education) chose to enroll their kids in virtual/online homeschooling, opting to do school-at-home. Public and private schools offer distance learning and do all of the teaching, grading, and recording for the parent. State-approved curriculum is often offered to the parent free of charge because it is part of the public schooling system at large. Depending on the program, students are required to spend a lot of time in front of the computer, use textbooks, and are tested to monitor their retention.

MORPHING METHODS
If you take a close look at all of those definitions, and even more so if you truly study them deeper, you'll find that there is a level of overlap that lends itself to the eclectic homeschooler. There's something likable about almost all of the methods of homeschooling. Being by nature, free-thinkers that are already going against culture's norm by homeschooling, it is no wonder that so many homeschoolers end up blazing their own path by picking and choosing what works from each method of teaching. For me, the first method change began in my first year.

By the end of my first year of Kindergarten (with my 4-year-old-son) and Preschool (with my 2-year-old daughter), I had driven the poor boy in my class mad, trying to push him to read and spending much too long inside at our kitchen table. Even I, who had been brought up in straight rows of desks, knew that I was killing his God-given desire to play, have fun outside, enjoy the world around him, and just be a kid. I figured that meant I was making "school" a dreaded word, too. I shared these thoughts with an older homeschool mother over a slice of dill bread at her home one day, and she handed me a huge, yellow book.

KONOS was a whole new idea for me to swallow - unit studies based upon character traits, multi-age level teaching at the same time, all subjects merging into the study of one topic, hands-on fun, and dramatization. But it was the reading that hooked me. I'm a sucker for a great book list. I was already cleaning out the library almost weekly. Once I started KONOS, I joined an online Yahoo group of KONOS users and instantly had a support group and mentors to guide me. I met a lot of friends on that email loop and a tiny two-family co-op was started that transformed our dull Kindergarten and Preschool into what I could only call PLAY. I had found our "sweet spot" in homeschooling, where learning was fun again. With young kids who could easily adapt and a dose of enthusiasm breathed back in to our schooling, Unit Studies became our new way of learning.

It was during the KONOS years that I began blogging. I shared much of my early year adventures through those times in my homeschool series posts (book lists, field trip lists, etc). The main page for my homeschool series is a story of our homeschooling journey (that is a couple of years past due an update), and it has links to my homeschool posts in order of school year/grade/age. It's funny, though - just when you think you 'have it down' and are an old hat at something, life deals you a new set of rules. My elementary-aged kids became teens, our life had twists and turns including moves, transitions, and new additions to the family. Through those changes, my methods were again forced under the evaluating microscope.

I'll pick up tomorrow with my change to outright eclectic methods and dabbling with Charlotte Mason. See you then!

It is a miracle that curiosity survives formal education.   - Albert Einstein
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I'm going to link up the rest of the series here to make it easier to navigate for those that surf in after the fact. You can also just click the button in my sidebar and it will be easy to find this series later to read what's new if you miss a day and want to come back and catch up later.

SERIES LINKS:
Introduction to this series
Day 1: Not So Super
Day 2: Morphing Methods
Day 3: Out of the Box
Day 4: Learning From Life
Day 5: Grace is for Homeschoolers
Day 6: Taste and See
Day 7: Grease and Sugar
Day 8: Carschooling and Fieldtripping
Day 9: Reading to Succeed
Day 10

Be sure to join me each day. I'll be giving away a prize to a random winner in my comments section on these posts. Each comment counts as one entry. I love comments! Even if I don't have time to answer every comment or email, I cherish them and enjoy getting to know my fellow homeschooling moms.



This post is a part of the 10 Days of... Series at iHomeschoolNetwork. Check out the other amazing homeschool bloggers who are participating in the writing challenge by visiting the landing page there.

Thanks for joining me!



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April 16, 2012

10 Days of Accidental Unschooling - Day 1: Not So Super

New series coming soon... Looking forward to blogging it! #hsbloggers #homeschool

Unschooling sounds like a really anti-schoolish word. I used to completely dismiss it. I thought that unschool families were completely child-led; that the parents had nothing to do with their child's education besides just keeping them fed and safe. I assumed the child only did "what they wanted" all day long without any parental supervision or direction. It wasn't until I met unschoolers online, talked to "relaxed homeschoolers" who consider themselves "quasi-unschoolers", that I began to see unschooling as more of a viable educational direction. At least I didn't turn my nose up to it as much. Even then, though, I would never have chosen unschooling without God placing me in a position to default to it.

I was the epitome of a 'school at home' homeschooler starting out. I bought a dry erase board, two little school-desks with cubbies underneath, a flag for saying the pledge, and stickers to go in my teacher grade-book. I kept meticulous lists of every book the kids ever read. We did anywhere from 5 to 8 hours a day, five days a week - and those were the early years!

I had lesson plans within lesson plans. I lived and breathed teaching. Everything in our family was geared towards homeschooling - down to the foods we ate, the field trips we had planned (almost weekly), and the Netflix movies we might watch. The librarian knew us well - and actually had to help us to the car once or twice with a book cart. My two older children (then 5 and 3) actually begged me not to read them any more books on Native American Indians because I felt like the unit study wasn't complete until we had read every book and done every activity that our curriculum suggested.

The only thing that prevented me from being a Homeschool Supermom was the fact that God saw fit to keep us moving - almost every year - those first few years of homeschooling. Our home flooded (twice) and we had to move out (and back in)... FEMA bought our house and we moved to another city... we moved out of state after having our house on the market for 8 months... and eventually, we moved back home to Texas. All of those moves kept me in limbo - boxes - and very distracted. Even so, my kids were thriving and our home schooling was a success. I knew so, because I tested the kids annually and they were excelling academically. I was driven to prove something to myself - that I could be a good homeschool teacher; and maybe I had bought in to the lie that I could "do it all".

Pride, pure and simple. I was a victim of homeschool snobbery.

Three pregnancies and two children later, with two teens in the mix, I can say with certainty that God brought me to my knees again. Thankfully, it's a place where He reminds me every day that my best was never what he required. Him plus my worst can still bring about miracles. All He really needed was a willing heart, a teachable spirit, and a desire to please Him.

In the next few days, I'll be talking more about our journey - pulling up a few highlights on the path... sharing with you (and encouraging myself along the way) all the glorious moments when I was allowed a glimpse in to the beauty of letting GO and letting GOD in the driver's seat.

I'm not saying unschooling is for everyone... nor would I ever have planned to be doing it... heck, I might not even do school this way if things were different in our life circumstances. I do know that my children are learning, though... and that as long as you have your eyes turned upward, and are desiring to please HIM in your parenting (which includes educating your kids), HE will MAKE YOU STAND.

Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To their own master, servants stand or fall. And they will stand, for the Lord is able to make them stand. ~ Romans 14:4

Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. ~ Psalm 37:4
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I'm going to link up the rest of the series here to make it easier to navigate for those that surf in after-the-fact. You can also just click the button in my sidebar and it will be easy to find this series later to read what's new if you miss a day and want to come back and catch up later.

SERIES LINKS:
Introduction to this series
Day 1: Not So Super
Day 2: Morphing Methods
Day 3: Out of the Box
Day 4: Learning From Life
Day 5: Grace is for Homeschoolers
Day 6: Taste and See
Day 7: Grease and Sugar
Day 8: Carschooling and Fieldtripping
Day 9: Reading to Succeed
Day 10

Be sure to join me each day. I'll be giving away a prize to a random winner in my comments section on these posts - each comment counts as one entry. I love comments! Even if I don't have time to answer every comment or email, I cherish them and enjoy getting to know my fellow homeschooling moms.



This post is a part of the 10 Days of... Series at iHomeschoolNetwork. Check out the other amazing homeschool bloggers who are participating in the writing challenge by visiting the landing page there.

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April 10, 2012

10 Days of Homeschool Series - A Group Venture!

New series coming soon... Looking forward to blogging it! #hsbloggers #homeschool

I'm joining up with a team of amazing homeschool moms to talk about homeschool things next week. The series will begin on Monday, the 16th of April. Each of us chose a theme - one that we know quite a bit about - and this happens to be mine: Accidental Unschooling.

Just what is accidental unschooling, you ask? Well, you'll have to wait until next week for more... but in a nut shell, it's watching your kids learn and blossom by delight-directed learning and life-lessons, regardless of how much remains unchecked on your homeschool lesson planner. Education that happens naturally - without the direction of mom - and often in spite of her! Heavy on the 'in spite of her' part.

Each of us is assigned to write about our chosen topic for TEN days. That should be easy since we've been accidentally unschooling for quite a while now (read: two children under 3 in the house - and two teens with health problems these past two years).

There's a cornucopia of topics to pick from and follow along with:

10 Days of Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Homeschooling
(I could have also done this topic well, yes?)

10 Days of Cultivating Curiosity
10 Days of Teaching with Legos
10 Days of Large Family Homeschooling
10 Days of Teaching Home Ec Skills
10 Days of Copywork and Dictation
10 Days of Nature Study
10 Days of Classic Literature
10 Days of Pouring into Your Children’s Passions
10 Days of Homeschooling for Free & Frugal
10 Days of Adoption
10 Days of Math Games and Activities
10 Days to Wheat/Gluten-Free Meals
10 Days of Kid Friendly Meals
10 Days of Teaching Writing
10 Days of Teaching God’s Word
10 Days of Simple Homeschool
10 Days of Online Teaching Tools
10 Days of Home Organization
10 Days of Delighting in Your Preschooler
10 Days of Homeschooling 101
10 Days of File Folder Games
10 Days of Teaching Music
10 Days of Preschool Science
10 Days of Intentional Parenting
10 Days of Ruling Your Curriculum
10 Days of Homeschooling a High Schooler
10 Days of Lasagna Learning – Teaching Multiple Ages

Sounds like I need to be tuning in to quite a few other topics, myself.

So... join us next week as we start our 10 days of Homeschool topics series! You won't want to miss it.




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April 09, 2012

Queen Buzzy Bee's Easter Weekend

Vintage Bee Toy #antique #toy #vintage #bees #old

What does a queen buzzy bee do with her Easter weekend? Well...

First of all, I spent Friday finishing up the Hunger Games third series book with my 13 year old daughter, and went to watch the movie at the theaters. Bedtime came late because we stayed up in anticipation of how the final book ended. We read all three books in two weeks or less - often times in to the night together. They were hard to put down. We liked the books much better than the movie.

The Hunger Games #reading #books

I also weeded the garden... or rather, parts of the back yard - with my eldest. Garden is a bit of an overstatement. Seems all we have growing back there are weeds and huge, flowering stalks of Cilantro that tower over the toddler. It has been fun watching the bees, butterflies, and caterpillars. I've got my eye on a section of the yard that is difficult to get to with the lawn mower because of a granite and rock pathway that cuts it off. I'm thinking of mulching and planting flowers and bushes to remedy the problem. Every time we mow it seems that part gets forgotten and since it has shade, the grass is uneven and patchy there anyway. When I find some time to research native Austin-Area shade-loving plants, I'm going to plan a large flower and shrub bed there. Anyone want to weigh in on some favorites?

Below in this vase are cilantro (tiny white blooms), a small purple wildflower weed, and the two roses we have in the yard. Daddy cut the red rose bush back this winter and it is exploding right now.

From my back yard... #flowers #pretty

Of course, there were more photos "developed" for the church directory. I wanted to be finished by this weekend, but it has been slower going than I predicted. My eyes and head hurt after staring at the screen for so long, so I have to take breaks. Keeping the kids from getting in trouble if I sit for very long is also a problem... sneaky little monsters!

I've enjoyed learning how to get around in Lightroom through the process of this project, though. I finally think I have it figured out for the most part. I am hoping to be done with this major project by Friday. It will be a huge relief - and I'm sure the elders will be thrilled to move forward with the picture directory.

Next up for "developing" are the bluebonnet pictures I took last Friday!

Developing... #lightroom #photography #pictures

Hubby and I killed a couple of green men on Saturday. My right shoulder is still sore. 51 out of 54 shots is not bad for a first timer. I tried open sight and a really nice scope. I prefer scope, but only because I could see where the bullet went easily with magnification. It didn't make much difference in the result. I seem to be much better at aim with rifles than I am with handguns.

The tape below? Oh, that's just to make it easier to see from 50 and 100 yards away. Every 20 or 30 shots they tape up the green man to cover the previous holes so you can see where your new rounds hit.

The green man is dead.

Then, there was small-town church with family in the country. Big time hospitality and Easter lunch. I may move in with cousin Paige if she promises to make me turkey, dressing, and cranberry sauce once a month. I'm still wishing I had brought home leftovers.

Easter Sunday, small town church with cousins

I also hired a little helper to work on fixing a lot of broken photos and links on my blog. You probably haven't even noticed, but I had two years worth of ancient Geocities-hosted, broken photos from back in 2005-2007 that needed updating. So now, if you are looking back through old field trips and homeschool posts, the photos will magically re-appear. Why might I be doing this, you ask? Well... I'm willing to share the secret: I'm moving to WordPress this month! Finally - after nearly three years of thinking about moving to WordPress... and after nearly two years of owning my own hosting on WordPress... I'm actually doing it.

Let's just hope it happens this month as planned. I'll believe it when I see it. You'll notice when you see it, too. Big hint: the site has been redesigned. Make sure you are surfing in on sprittibee.com and not my blogger url! I've been told it will happen in April... so keep your eyes open!

How about your family... what's going on with you? What did you do over Easter weekend?

 


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