Our co-op had a meeting this week to plan for next year and I was in no mood for thinking of next year. I was thinking of everything that has gone wrong THIS year. I had been having visions of school buses whisking away my children so I could get some perspective earlier that morning, actually. Of course, I wouldn't "go there", but I do have those thoughts from time to time.
Tuesday, we got up at 5am for a field trip in another city and didn't go to bed until 11 that night. Unbeknownst to me, we were low on our funds before the trip. You wouldn't even believe the amount of overdrafts I got while out of town for the day-trip. Overdrafts stink even worse if you have the money in your savings account to cover them and you just FORGET to check the balance. Chalk it up to stupidity... but that won't pay the car note, will it?
Then there was the little 'accident' that happened on the dining room carpet (OH, it was bad, people). The cat knocked a small plant off of my dining table that we were planning on putting in the flower gardens and hadn't gotten to yet. Morgan tried to clean it up herself. Only, she didn't know that loose dirt is easier to get up with a vacuum - so she rubbed it all in to the carpet with a sopping wet rag.
OH, YES SHE DID. A big MUD puddle where I used to have beige carpet. It is the biggest carpet stain I have. ever. seen.
So having a meltdown this week wasn't that strange. The amazing part was that the meltdown wasn't over the money or the carpet (although I did think to warn my husband about those things before he got home Thursday). My moment of madness was over the general chaos that we have been experiencing due to our lack of routine. Our behaviors and habits have slipped into disintegration-mode. Especially mom's.
The solution? We had a "pow-wow" today. We have those from time to time during the school year. More in the past year two years than ever, it seems. We started our meeting with a few tears and apologies. Then we played a game where each of us told the rest of the group (mom, grandma, Morgan, and Kaden) one thing that was positive and one thing that was negative about each other. We are going to use the list as a springboard towards positive behaviors and goals for the future. By the end of this discussion, we were in stitches - laughing together. It was time well spent. My mom said it should be considered "Psychology Class" or a "Teacher Conference Day". I agreed.
Then we talked about our rules and asked the kids to come up with their own punishments for the rules - since my son thought being grounded on Saturday was worse than death. They came up with some great ideas that mom hadn't thought of before. The rules are more for Mom and Dad, really. With a rules chart on the wall, we can let the kids punish themselves so we aren't the bad guys. And if they don't get in gear - now we know what they consider "worse than death". I figure this is good information for later. Hopefully I won't have to use it on them.
Our crazy week and the emotional day we had has left us plumb tuckered out. Only after our pow-wow did I discover that Morgan has been suffering from silent sinus issues all day and did I notice Kaden's sneezing. Both of them needed medicine - poor things. That means the evening will end quicker than later! We might all be in bed before the sun sets tonight. Kaden is veging out in front of the X-Box, Daddy is surfing the net, Grandma is on her way home, Morgan is fast asleep on my bed, and I'm fixing to chill out for the rest of the weekend. I don't want to go anywhere or do anything this weekend. I think we all need some down-time.
I don't even want to go downstairs. Because that huge carpet stain is down there. Maybe we can have pizza delivered by pulley? That would be a great Science Project...
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