August 27, 2008

How Do You Say Goodbye to a 3 Year Old?

I'm sorry for the drastic contrast between yesterday's light-hearted post and today's tragedy. I share this news with a heavy heart and a deep sadness for the family of this sweet young man. I could hardly sleep last night, waking and thinking of Marsha's grief. This morning I dedicated two pages in my prayer journal to all the things I am hoping for their family in these coming days. I wanted to dedicate this post to the happy memory of her son... the smile and life he brought to their family - the happiness that he brought... and the future he has already begun in Heaven.

We mortals can not understand the ways of the Lord - the timing of His perfect plan for our lives. It seems so hard to fathom a young child being taken so early, before he has yet lived a full life. No amount of wisdom about the scriptures can ease the grief of a mother's heart... but Jesus can carry and comfort us in our time of need.

Isaiah 57

1 The righteous perish,
and no one ponders it in his heart;
devout men are taken away,
and no one understands
that the righteous are taken away
to be spared from evil.

2 Those who walk uprightly
enter into peace;
they find rest as they lie in death.

This is what my prayer is for his family... that they would be carried, comforted, blessed, and at peace - knowing that even if their little star has gone on to the heavens... his life was a bright blessing, and that he will be waiting for them on high.

Marsha is a dearly loved blogging friend of mine. Many of you probably know her. There will be countless tributes today to her sweet 'Dozer' and their family all around the blogosphere. If you have one that you would like to share, please leave me a link. I'll try and gather up the links to share them here for you as I find them.

Heart of the Matter's Sweet Tribute Post
HSBA's Redirect
Jocelyn's Request for Prayers
Super Angel is Heartbroken
Amy shares a Video of Christian (Dozer) Singing
SisLisa Shares a Special Prayer Request
Nikowa's Loving Tribute
Without Words at Joyful Chaos
Rachel's reaching out to Marsha
Lisa shares her Tribute to Christian
A Tribute to Dozer by Angela
Dawn's Prayers are with the Drews Family
Suzanne adds a Linky for Marsha and all who wish to share their post
Pat Asks for Prayers
Mommy Matters Celebrates Marsha and her Son
MandyMom Can't Imagine
Renae's request for Songs for Marsha's New IPOD
Amy shares her same post from HOTM at her own site
Until They Meet Again - by Hallie

Please remember her family in your prayers for as long as you can. They will need our love this year and onward.

Please read this article, entitled "How to Help During the Loss of a Child".
It will give you valuable insight as to what you can do for the Drews family.

And Marsha, if you are reading... here's a poem that I read at my husband's best friend's funeral... he died when he was 27, leaving behind a 5 month old baby and a 2 year old - and a wife who had just been diagnosed with breast cancer. Just a few short months before he died, he had been baptized... and he did cartwheels down the aisle afterwards. That was the kind of joyful person Ken was. It was hard for all of us to let him go... but God called him home. I pray you will know in your heart that God loves you - and that 'Dozer' is smiling down - waiting to welcome his family home one day.

A Voice of the Departed

I shine in the light of God,
His likeness stamps my brow;
Through the valley of death my feet have trod,
And I reign in glory now.

I have reached the joys of heaven,
I am one of the sainted band;
To my head a crown of gold is given,
And a harp is in my hand.

No sin, no grief, no pain;
Safe in my happy home,
My fears all fled, my doubts all slain,
My hour of triumph's come.

Oh friends of mortal years,
The trusted and the true,
Ye are waiting still in the valley of tears,
But I wait to welcome you.

Do I forget? Oh no,
For memory's golden chain
Shall bind my heart to the hearts below,
Till they meet to touch again.

- Author Unknown

Cards or Correspondence can be mailed to:
David and Marsha Drews
c/o Rachel Harris
12830 N. Cypress Lane
Tomball, TX 77377

Right now the family has asked that if you feel led to donate, please donate to their church mission fund in Christian's name. As I get that information from the family, I'll certainly edit this post to include it. Marsha has just requested that we all continue to pray and remember her sweet little angel.

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Anonymous said...

Beautiful tribute to a young life that made a difference to many! Your words gave me chills, and my heart breaks for this stranger so many of my blogging friends know.

Thankful to intercede on their behalf; bewildered by our awesome God.


Anonymous said...

This just makes me sick. My heart and prayers go out to Marsha and her family.

Jacque Dixon said...

Oh what a question, Heather. You don't say good-bye to a three yo. You don't say good-bye to any of your children forever, do you?

I wrote up a post of prayer, because I have been so ill over this. I just don't have any other words. I will have to amend it and add a few things. I keep hugging on Caleb, because, HE would have gone back to the pond. He has escaped death already very many times in his short life. It is so sad I just can't describe it.

I have never met Marsha, and I am a horrible blog-friend about reading and commenting, but I have known her for two years, and I am beside myself.

You can't say good-bye. Can you? you can only hold on to memories and hopes of seeing him again with the Lord.

Love you Heather. This is beautiful.

Julie said...

Thanks for sharing this and the links. It has blessed me to read and see more of this precious heart.

I have only been at HOTM for a few months now and haven't really gotten to know many of the other writers. Though I don't know Marsha well, I ache for her and her family.

Thank you for the window into this precious family.

Bless you,
PS. I also started blogging by accident (I read the "about me" section). I too was responding to a friend and found that I had a blog! : )

Anonymous said...

Thanks for doing this.

I'm doing something similar. I added a Mr. Linky to my blog to "collect" all the blog entries of prayers and love in one place... so that it will be easier for Marsha to find in the days, weeks, and months ahead.

Thank you to everyone for your prayers for our sweet friend Marsha.

Anonymous said...
is the link to a post I did about this if you want to see it. Thanks for doing this....Pat

Karin Katherine said...

Thank you for your post and for gathering all of the tributes to Marsha and "Dozer". I wrote a tribute to her son here:

Elena LaVictoire said...

I never knew of Marsha or read her blog but my prayers are certainly with her and her family during this very difficult time. May the Lord grant them peace and healing.

Sisterlisa said...

Not good-bye dear friend Jacque, just 'see you in a bit' ((hugs))

I highly recommend the film, "Finding Neverland" in a case like this. Twas at the end of that film that my daughter Monica said to me with tears in her eyes,"I can find Kelly on the pages of my heart" in regards to her friend going to heaven at age 9. ((tears streaming.......))

Thus the name of Jess' blog.

Unknown said...

I was heartbroken to read this in my emails this morning....

I wrote my tribute, I guess you could call it, a bit go.

DeEtta @ Courageous Joy said...

Praying for this dear family.

lori said...

What a beautiful tribute...I've posted too...I've had 2 in the past few weeks...I'm just a mess these days...I received an email this morning that just it in perspective for me...

It's not NEVER's until we meet again....the other side of heaven... I go again...
chat with you later...
love you!

A Good Kinda Crazy said...

I have made a post asking for people to cover the Drews family in prayer for 24 hours leading up to the 25th of September, marking one month without "Dozer". Please stop by and add your name if you'd like, and share it on your blog for others that might be willing to "help" this family through prayer.

Amy (aka Dandelion Seeds)



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