October 29, 2009

Embracing Imperfection

Let's face it. Life isn't always rosy when you are raising kids. There's grime in the bathtub. Crispy grated cheese left under the lunch table. Cat hair on your favorite black jacket. Stinky diapers that need to go out. Piles and piles and piles and piles of paperwork and projects to attend to.

And someone ate mom's last Special Dark chocolate bar. {I kid you not.}

That someone is most likely pictured in the image below... holding a baby.

Inside every mother there's a hope that her children will be better than she is. We want them to have more, get all the breaks, find joy and live out their dreams. We want them to soar. We picture them as geniuses. Gifted. Spiritual giants. I guess that's why it is so surprising to us when we encounter less than perfect moments in the daily grind of life. While we are busy daydreaming about 'all green lights and rights'; the toast burns, the laundry gets moldy because someone forgot to turn the dryer on, and the day's hopes vanish in the horror of a two hour math page melt-down.

Things get gritty. Let's not mince words here.

But there is beauty in imperfection. The trick is to realize that it's all about the relationships.

As my friend, Ann, would say, "Love is what matters." I think she got that from Jesus.

I said trick because it isn't easy.

Did you hear me???

One more time:

IT ISN'T EASY to see the beauty in 'unperfect' moments.

{Yes, I know 'unperfect' isn't a word.}

Or in my case, unperfect days. Heck, I'll be honest. Unperfect school years. Multiple ones. In succession.

Today was one of those days. I actually threw a fit (and I might have actually thrown a few dirty clothes and toys in the general direction of some un-named children's rooms - but I'm not admitting that online or anything). Now that's a stellar example of Christ-like parenting, no?

Would you believe I could be frustrated with those gorgeous kids while I was trying to take a picture the other day? They were just trying to have fun and make me laugh. "COME ON, Kaden. Stop it! Just smile for Pete's Sake! Quit ruining the picture." Grumble. Grumble. Frown.

I sit here now - days later, looking at that picture (my lost moment), and all I can do is smile and laugh (when it doesn't count any more) - and realize that unperfect pictures - like our unperfect lives - are beautiful.

I implore you (and me) to embrace your imperfect kids and lives. They're the only ones you get.

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. ~ Ephesians 4:2

Dear Jesus,

Please let us smile even when circumstances don't warrant it. Give us arms that hug, eyes that sparkle, voices that pray and sing, words that offer wisdom and comfort.



Ms. Anita said...

Amen and amen!

Tracy said...

Great post, Lady!

Anonymous said...

Thank you. I needed that.

Jo said...

"It isn't easy to see the beauty in 'unperfect' moments"- that is so true. We are so busy looking at those details that it is only when we step back that we see the glorious radiance of our wonderful Saviour!
Thank you for being real!

Amy said...

Sweetie, this was beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing your heart.

Suzanne ~ TheJoyfulChaos said...

ooh, you wrote this *at* me, didn't you?!

especially "I sit here now - days later, looking at that picture (my lost moment), and all I can do is smile and laugh (when it doesn't count any more) - and realize that unperfect pictures - like our unperfect lives - are beautiful."

i just asked matt last night if i was the only mom that constantly felt like a mama-failure at the end of the day.

all of this is so beautifully said - thanks, girly!

Brenda said...

Yes, it always occurs to me after they go to bed and are sleeping angels that I missed moments that day.

Great post. Thank you.

Sprittibee said...

Just to give you an idea of how bad my yesterday was, I'll share a little email from my husband today. I always send him a scripture after I pray for him in the morning to let him know what area of his life I've been praying for. I sent him Matthew 5:16 this morning (see his good works and glorify the Father).

Here was his email back:

"After last night, I halfway expected something from Isaiah or Revelation… :)

Hope today is a better day for you.

I have attached a PDF with the remaining days of my 2009 vacation.

In Darth Vader’s Grip,


Beckie E said...

Thank you so much for todays blog! Our math didn't take 2 hours but longer than it should have! I was so encouraged by the post today that I read it to my daughter and she laughed about the math melt down, since she can relate (she was my melter)! Thanks for the reminder to cheris all the unperfect moments! Since we are trying to potty train our 2 year old those were words I needed to hear!

Anonymous said...

I agree!
And I'm so glad to hear that I'm not the only one who sometimes forgets to turn the dryer on and ends up with a moldy load of laundry!

Erin said...

you hit the nail on the head with this one!!

woosterweester said...

Oh I needed this today! Thanks for that. I have been really overreacting to the imperfect moments, and I sooo want the Lord to make me more like Him. I have been feeling like a mama failure the last couple of weeks (great comment from the Joyful Chaos there), and I want to embrace the imperfect as much as I enjoy embracing my children. Thank you, thank you, thank you.


Kelly @ Wisdom Begun said...

I thought I was the only adult who still threw fits.


momtofivekids said...

I needed this! Thank you!

Jacque said...

LOVE the photos Heather! What a sweet bunch you have!
(((HUGS))) to all!



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